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Training Children’s EQ with Delayed Gratification?

23/01/2025

Training Children’s EQ with Delayed Gratification? Written by: Pang Chi Wah, Registered Educational Psychologist, New Horizons Development Centre Hong Kong is a materially affluent society, but due to the abundance of resources, when children have needs in their lives, parents quickly fulfill those needs, providing them with continuous satisfaction. However, when parents satisfy their children’s needs too quickly, it can have negative effects, failing to train their ability to endure. Over time, their patience may become limited. Using Everyday Emotions to Cultivate Patience in Children Delaying gratification or the fulfillment of life’s needs is an important aspect of developing emotional intelligence (EQ). If parents are accustomed to quickly meeting their children’s needs but then complain about their lack of patience, such comments are unfair to the children, as their patience simply hasn’t been cultivated. How can we teach children to delay their needs? To train children’s emotional intelligence, the key is to “not use harsh measures or rewards.” This means avoiding both physical punishment and frequent rewards, but rather honing their patience and ability to wait through everyday experiences and challenges. Parents can try the following examples: Example 1: When parents take their children to a dim sum restaurant, they shouldn’t immediately order whatever the children like. Instead, parents can ask the children to finish one basket of dim sum before waiting an additional five minutes before having another type. Alternatively, children can be asked to wait until the parents have eaten part of a basket before they can eat.

Open-ended questions help enhance children’s associative skills

23/12/2024

Open-ended questions help enhance children’s associative skills Written by: Pang Chi Wah, Registered Educational Psychologist Many parents hope to enhance their children’s thinking skills. In fact, as long as parents properly guide their children to connect some small things in life and then ask leading questions, they can consciously think about the things they see and related knowledge. For example, when children see an apple, let them think about what kind of object is also round or red; when they hear the sound of birds, they will think about what kind of animal can fly. Ask your child more questions that are not restrictive   When parents ask children questions, do not force them to answer or ask for a definite answer, or even ask them to answer the question right away because they may still be thinking about it. Parents do not need to ask any restrictive questions and can ask whatever comes to mind, such as what kind of objects chopsticks are like and what kind of people wear uniforms like students. In addition to making them think more, parents can also think and discuss with their children as a parent-child activity, which helps to enhance their relationship.   In addition to asking individual questions, parents can also allow children to answer questions with their siblings or friends. For children with higher ability, parents can let them answer more different answers; for children with average ability, they can answer fewer answers; for those with weaker ability, parents can

How to Make Good Use of “One, Two, Three”

15/11/2024

How to Make Good Use of “One, Two, Three” Written by: Doctor Cheung Kit   I often see comments about parenting online and in newspapers. Many people believe that modern children are becoming increasingly difficult to control. For some reason, they seem to be getting smarter and more self-centered, so they don’t easily follow the guidance of their elders. Personally, I tend to be more conservative and believe that the main reason for children’s behavioral issues lies in our inadequate guidance as adults. In theory, no matter how intelligent a child is, as long as boundaries and rules are established early on, they can follow them well. Among various methods, today I want to discuss how to effectively use “One, Two, Three.”   This method is particularly effective for young children because their responses are simply about following the rules they are given. The approach is that when a child exhibits inappropriate behavior, parents can count “One, Two, Three.” If the child does not stop after the count, parents should impose appropriate consequences. The benefits of this method include:   When children hear “One, Two, Three,” they know their parents are serious. “One, Two, Three” is time-bound; children cannot use delay tactics. It is more effective than saying “Hurry up” or “Right now.” Children have time to complete what they might originally think is acceptable behavior, so it doesn’t feel too abrupt. Actually, before saying “One, Two, Three,” there is an implicit understanding between parents and children:   Both parties

Is Your Child Experiencing Separation Anxiety? 7 Methods to Help Alleviate Separation Anxiety!

14/10/2024

Is Your Child Experiencing Separation Anxiety? 7 Methods to Help Alleviate Separation Anxiety! Written by: Family Dynamics Psychotherapist Yuen Wai-man Little Hsuen is in the first grade. Her father passed away from illness when she was one year old. For a long time, her mother relied on her husband’s savings to take care of Hsuen at home. However, in recent years, as financial circumstances became strained, her mother had to take on a part-time job to support the family’s expenses. Recently, Hsuen has been unable to attend school peacefully; every time her mother takes her to school, she cries and throws a tantrum, refusing to let her mother leave. During class, she insists that her mother stay outside the classroom for over an hour so she can see her through the classroom window before she can reluctantly settle down to learn. Recently, Hsuen’s pet cat, which she cared for, unfortunately passed away due to illness, leaving her feeling gloomy and worried that other unfortunate events might occur, such as her mother passing away one day. Since then, Hsuen has become afraid to sleep alone and frequently experiences physical discomfort, including symptoms of vomiting and headaches. This situation has persisted for two weeks, and her mother is exhausted and increasingly worried and anxious. Through a friend’s recommendation, she sought help from a psychotherapist. The psychotherapist used play therapy to create a safe therapeutic environment for Hsuen, establishing a trusting relationship with her so that she could gradually explore and express her

Don’t Let Children Live Too Carelessly

14/09/2024

Don’t Let Children Live Too Carelessly by Mr Kwan, Principal of the Financial Education Academy (Regular Courses)   Someone once said, “Raising children in poverty may be the best form of education.”   However, born in an era of extreme material abundance, most parents have already become prosperous. On one hand, it is difficult to make today’s children understand the concept of “contentment,” and even harder to return to days of poverty to rekindle their “will” to understand how to live. But at the very least, parents should examine:   Is their own concept of money correct? Has it been influencing the next generation? Don’t let children live in the same carefree way as adults. Many times, the author observes a common phenomenon in life, where whatever adults do, children naturally follow suit. Indeed, parents always provide the best quality of life for their children, good food… good housing… good things… as if they have closed the gap of life between the two generations, creating an illusion where both generations share the same way of life as a matter of course. For example, can a five or six-year-old child have bubble tea with their parents? Do you see the issue here? Have you noticed that many times parents (the world) inadvertently accelerate their children’s growth pace, and many education and psychology experts tell us that providing too much in life for children actually hinders their healthy development. Therefore, the author suggests that besides eating together at the same table and

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